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From My Heart: Accepting Responsibility

Mon, 01 Dec 2008 14:54:00
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To Whom It May Concern:
Hello, it’s me again.  Just one person talking to another from the heart.  I would like to talk about accepting responsibility for our behavior.  I know I have not always accepted responsibility for my actions.  It’s sometimes easier to blame others for our situations than to look at ourselves.
For example, there was a point earlier in my life, that while working at my job I was not performing my duties as I knew I should.  I wasn’t taking my job seriously or following policies and procedures.  My supervisor implemented progressive disciplinary actions to get me to correct my behavior and become a team player and better employee.  I thought he was being a jerk and was picking on me.  I was convinced it was personal.  I did not heed all of the warnings I received, and in the end, I fired myself.  Notice I did not say he fired me. Ultimately, it was my behavior that led me out the door.  It wasn’t personal.  He was doing his job, I wasn’t. 
There were two other employees in the same position.  We would get together and grumble about our jobs and decide to rebel in small ways.  One of them was also fired, and the other quit.  Looking back, I can clearly see and understand how our behavior caused our termination. We were not being asked to do anything unreasonable on the job.  We thought we should be able to be late when we wanted, call in sick when we weren’t, and make personal calls anytime we chose.  Of course we felt persecuted and in turn developed bad attitudes.  I often wonder about the impact of the three of us congregating to complain.  I wonder if we were guilty of fueling each other’s negativity.  Of course, those people I was grumbling with were of no help to me when I lost my job.
I must take responsibility for my own behavior.  I learned this valuable lesson at a young age.  When things aren’t going the way I planned, or I’m coming up against a lot of roadblocks, I stop and analyze the steps I’ve been taking and the attitude I have while taking them.  I check to see if I am being respectful to others, following the rules set before me, and acknowledging and following the chain of command.
I used to sabotage myself through my behavior.  But since I developed a more constructive and reasonable way of thinking, I have noticed that there are more positive outcomes to my endeavors.    If you don’t like your job, look for another.  However, until you find another job or quit you are responsible for doing the job you are being paid for and following the policies and procedures.  When you have difficulties on the job, it is important to look at your own behavior first, because you could be experiencing a reaction from your supervisor or peers (to behaviors you are practicing) that are causing problems on the job.  If the behavior is corrected, the job might not be so bad.  I probably would have liked my job if I had behaved correctly.  I was upset because I received disciplinary actions for my unacceptable behaviors and resulting failures on the job.  I had to learn that when I was at work, my personal life could not take priority over my job performance.  It was my own responsibility to make sure my life was in order so I could perform my job appropriately. 
I’m sure I’m not alone in this.  It basically comes down to choosing to look at ourselves honestly, and choosing to do what is just and right. You expect to be paid, the employer expects you to work and that is fair. These are just my experiences.  If I have reached the heart of just one person, I will feel I have been of some worth today.  I am not judging anyone, so please do not judge me.
Your humble servant

 
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