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Sat, 29 Dec 2012 19:58:00
Article by:
Midgett

Are you making resolutions you are not going to keep? Not again? Your getting older, so isn’t it time to “keep it real” with yourself, family and friends?

Let’s think about some of the changes you might want to consider for the coming year. I am going to list two, and see if they are on your list of resolutions which you seem to make every year and don’t follow through with them.

Money: This issue is all year round, but most of the time it is around this time of year. Now you have to start paying off the bills because of the unnecessary gifts you purchased for some people you don’t even like. Are you upset with yourself because you made a resolution about spending money this year? Now it is payback time. You spent a lot of money for Christmas. Now what? Each year you continue to go into debt buying gifts because you think that is what you are supposed to do. Now how are you going to resolve this problem in your in the future years?

Questions to ask yourself: Can I afford to spend money? Who are you purchasing the gift for, and why? Is it the price of the gift that counts, or the thought?

Employment: How old are you? Are you near retirement? Just beginning a new job? Any chances of advancement? Why are you working at this particular job? How long have you been on this particular job? I retired from a job in July 2012 after working 25 years as a relief counselor, and many years in other mental health environments, also as a relief person. These jobs were offered to me permanently. Freedom was more important then the money.

Remember, all money is not good money. I was 76 years old. I retired from my teaching profession at the age of 70. I substituted for 20 years before I signed a teaching contract. Do you want to put that much time in a job? I did. Why did I work in all those places without a steady income? I did it because I wanted to be FREE. I used the word free because it is the only way to describe the lifestyle I led while not working every day and not having a steady paycheck.

The freedom allowed me to lecture at universities, high school and the police academy for 20 years, write two books, raise my children, and involve myself in their lives without conflict of a work schedule, and also contribute my time to my community.

Now what are your plans if you are nearing 50 for your economic future?

Children: Why does a child between the ages of birth and three need two toys? Who are you trying to impress, the child or the neighbors?

Relationships: These include friends, families or whoever is close to you and takes up your time. Remember this is a new year. Ask yourself how these individuals benefit you because you gave them a gift this year. Do you buy friendship? Are they deserving? Christmas is no longer a religious holiday. It is all about the Benjamin, money.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Mary Midgett is the author of “New York Flavor with a San Francisco Beat.” The San Francisco resident is available to do presentations and seminars on social and family negotiations. She also conducts workshops on parenting, self-esteem and social and intimate relationships.

She can be viewed on YouTube, “Host for Older Women's Issues” at www.youtube.com/watch?v=kA9HwhKY40U, or by visiting www.marymidgett.net, or sending an email to midgettscorner@aol.com.

 
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